Some days are not filled with unicorns & rainbows, in fact some days are frantic, insane and a complete chaos.
Today was one of those days, for some reason today Bader woke up in a bad mood, he was unsettled, agitated and started running everywhere, you could tell he was not himself. He didn't want to do his morning routine, nor eat his breakfast, he just looked perturbed and frustrated. And I have to say even though I am a big advocate for PECS, (picture exchange communication system), as they are a great alternative of communication to a non verbal child, and I would always recommend it, if the child has no other way of communication. But when it comes to express feeling, and more I have to say it is disappointing. I mean he can use the emotional cards like happy, sad, sick…, etc. But when he gets those days he just doesn't want to, even if I prompt him. We did try to introduce him to Apps on I pad last year but he could not make the transitioning from having the iPad as an entertainment tool, to an actual tool of communication. As he kept asking for his games & had zero interest in learning how to use the App. So I know he wants to say more, but can not. And at that very moment I could not help feel that I failed him, in this aspect. Maybe I should have pushed more for it. It just breaks my heart when I see confusion and helplessness hovering over his face.
So after few minutes, of just sitting there, watching him. My head was spinning around with these thoughts, I said to myself it is not too late. I just have to start again introducing the I pod application, and use it only as his communication tool. With that mind set, I stood up brought his pecs book, put it next to him and just lay down on his bed, asked him if he wants to come lay down next to me, he did, we slip under the blanket for a while just cuddling, giving him big bear hugs and started deep tissue massage, while putting some pressure on his joint. we spent ten minutes just doing that, at that point he was starting to get less agitated, and as I stopped he dragged my arm around him, indicating he wants more. So another 10 minutes of big hugs and massage. Afterward I asked him if he wants to use either the rowing machine or the trampoline, he said no to both. So I thought I will get the wall ball and do the deep body & spine exercise from Dr. Mellilo’s book, The Disconnected child. As it always does him good, in fact it does me just as good whenever I feel stressed. So we did that for another ten minutes. ThenI told him he had to eat his breakfast and get ready for school. He looked relieved, and more calmer, as if he was carrying something so heavy & he got rid off. He carried on with his day without major incidents.
I can not emphasize enough about the importance of feeding our kids sensory needs with a meaningful activities, as it is so important to their well being as it is more than a need it is a necessity .
Stay positive but real to yourself, As there are no unicorns, but there are rainbows.